If life had a bio on instagram it would probably just be “shit happens”. I mean is that not accurate? Because I can tell you from my own personal experience shit definitely does happen. I mean two and a half weeks ago I was dating this guy that, honestly, I loved with my whole entire heart and actually would have considered marrying, a couple months ago I was a student at OU, and honestly this whole past semester I finally felt like I had my shit together; I was happy. Well now all of that is a joke. That guy that I was quite sincerely head over heels for is no where to be found, and quite frankly I don’t think he gives a flying fu*k about me anymore, I’m transferring out of OU back home, and I have no fu*king clue what is happening with my life. It’s a dumpster fire to say the least. So now I’m here and it is 1:48 AM in the morning and I can’t help but wonder how the fu*k am I supposed to make the right decisions, because every decision I’ve made so far has turned to complete shit; I’m pretty damn miserable if I’m going to be completely transparent.
But this isn’t a pity party, I promise. In all honesty I’m not sure what this is? Helpful thoughts and tips to stay functional when your literal entire world is crumbling around you? We’ll go with that. But yeah, to get on with my point, I’ve been through a lot of shit in life, just like every other person in life, and despite all of the things that have happened that I’ve thought, “I’m not sure I’ll make it through this”, I’ve always come out the other end of the rather unpleasant, horrendous, dark, and fu*king depressing tunnel alive and well; maybe a little worse for wear, but definitely more wise.
So here’s the thing: whenever we get in these spots in life I think it’s our tendency to blame the unfortunate events that happen on ourselves, and we shouldn’t (not always at least, I mean sometimes you really do fu*k up, but thats another story). What I’m saying is that a lot of times shitty stuff happens just because we were at the wrong place at the wrong time and because other people are unpredictable, just like you or me, and life really just isn’t fair. So in the midst of all the moving parts and widgets of life that contribute to everything that happens in our life, we have to remember that just because everything seems like its literally burning to the ground, that doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with us or that we’re cursed or that we just need to give up and fall into a Tito’s induced coma so that maybe when we wake up everything will be fine. It means that right now, when everything is shit, it is time for us to take control of ourselves, take a deep breathe, and sprint down that dark tunnel until we get to the other end. And if we can do that, the person that comes out of the tunnel sure as hell wont be the same person that entered it; we’ll be stronger, more resilient, and prepared for whatever the hell life throws at us next.
It’s not easy, especially in these moments, because it is honestly a lot easier to fall into sadness, depression, or miserableness (thats not a word but its fine, you catch my drift) than to be happy and content. But even if we aren’t happy right now the key is to try to get there, we can’t let ourselves be content just marinating in a mix of remorse, regret, and resentment. And I won’t lie, that takes a lot of work and strength, because if being happy was as easy as flipping a switch the world would probably be a hell of a lot better of a place to exist.
Anyways, I’ve probably ranted enough at this point for you to get my point, but all I’m saying is that even when everything seems empty, broken, and fu*ked up, know that it will not be like that forever and it’s probably not all your fault, because if you’ve made it this far in life chances are that you’re going to keep making it. This dark time is just a season to be short lived, and eventually a new season will come and everything WILL be alright, we just have to be pursuing it to the best of our ability, instead of sitting down and staying in the place that we are at. I guaran-damn-tee you that everything wont suddenly or magically just be okay one day, but the good news is that we can work and succeed at making everything okay, so that one day we can look back on when everything absolutely sucked and realize that we made it and that we are now an improved person for making it.
- C.